Twenty-six. 26. What does this number mean to you? In spirit
of my recent 26th birthday, I wanted to compile a list of 26 things
relevant for families.
And then this fact fell into my lap…Experts say that a woman’s
chances of becoming pregnant drops 10% at age 27[1].
In other words, women who are 26 years of age are in their last year of optimal
fertility.
Ok, so what does that mean? Well, for some women, that means
your “clock” is ticking and you might be suffering from a severe case of baby
fever (the desire to have a baby). However, for a number of women, it means absolutely
nothing. Why? 19% of women remain childless[2].
This number has doubled since 1980 and could continue to rise as more women are
seeing the child-free life as an acceptable option for them.
Here are 26 reasons why the child-free life course may be
right for you.
Reason #1: FREEDOM![3]
The absence of children leaves the opportunity to pick up and travel on a
moment’s notice, the freedom to make poor (but fun) choices, and the freedom to
a long list of things you cannot do with impressionable children looking up to
you for answers.
Reason #2: Less stress[4].
Reason #3: Being able to sleep in!
Reason #4: Higher education[5].
Go after the college degree you want!
Reason #5: You crave independence.
Reason #6: You have plenty of siblings and get your
child-fix through nieces and nephews.
Reason #7: Living up to societal norms is not your thing.
Reason #8: Valuing intimacy. Remaining child-free offers you
more time to focus on your intimate relationship[6].
Reason #9: Pursuit of an active lifestyle.
Reason #10: The possibility of child support, visitation,
and other legal issues involving child custody concerns you.
Reason #11: Rejecting society’s attempt to define women by
the act of motherhood[7].
Reason #12: Your career demands your full attention.
Reason #13: Parents are judged harshly[8]
and you want no part of that.
Reason #14: You feel sick thinking about changing diapers and potty training.
Reason #15: Enforcing rules and implementing discipline is
not how you want to spend your nights and weekends.
Reason #16: Being at home makes you stir-crazy.
Reason #17: The price of childcare ($8,859 a year for an
infant in Iowa[9])
is outrageous.
Reason #18: Not having the “mommy” or “daddy” gene.
Reason #19: Not worrying about finding a quality school
district[10].
Reason #20: Because you can achieve happiness and satisfaction
without raising children.
Reason #21: More time for your interests and hobbies.
Reason #22: No grocery store tantrums!
Reason #23: Financial security and freedom. Being able to
buy a house, car, or other items you dream of.
Reason #24: You enjoy being spontaneous without having to
worry about arranging childcare or babysitters.
Reason #25: Child-free families are an acceptable family
form.
Reason #26: It is your life; only you know what is best for
you!
[1] http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-112136/The-female-fertility-clock-starts-ticking-27.html[2] Bulcroft,
R. & Teachman, J. (2004). Chapter 7: Ambiguous constructions: Development of
a childless or child–free life course. (Pp. 116–135). In Coleman, M. &
Ganong, L. H. Eds. Handbook of Contemporary Family: Considering the Past,
Contemplating the Future. Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage Pub.[3] http://www.huffingtonpost.com/norma-lizeth-morales/child-free_b_1951991.html[4] See
footnote 2[5] Smock, P. & Greenland,
F. (2010). Diversity in pathways to parenthood: Patterns, implications, and
emerging research directions. Journal of Marriage and the Family: Decade in
Review, 72, 576–593. [6] Sassler, S. (2010)
Partnering across the life course: Sex, relationships, and mate selection. Journal
of Marriage and the Family: Decade in Review, 72, 557–575.[7]
See footnote 2[8] Bogenschneider, K. & Corbett,
T. (2010). Family policy: Becoming a field of inquiry and subfield of social
policy. Journal of Marriage and the Family: Decade in Review. 72, 783–803.[9] http://www.naccrra.org/sites/default/files/default_site_pages/2012/iowa_060612-3.pdf [10]
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